What is your Attachment Style?

Answer 12 research-backed questions to uncover your attachment tendencies (Anxious, Avoidant, Secure, or Fearful-Avoidant) and receive a short summary.

⏱ 2 min · 12 adaptive questions · Private inbox report

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Find your pattern with a free atachment style quiz.

Your data stays on your device until you request the full report. 12 adaptive prompts, tie-breaker logic, and a detailed inbox breakdown.

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Need a deeper primer on each pattern? Read The Relationship Blueprint you never knew you had for long-form examples and repair ideas.

The science of connection

Attachment Theory isn't a new pop-psychology trend. It was developed in the 1950s by British psychologist John Bowlby and later expanded by American psychologist Mary Ainsworth

Why does it matter?

  • It is widely considered the most advanced framework for understanding adult romantic relationships.
  • These "styles" aren't diagnoses. They are blueprints formed in childhood that dictate how we respond to intimacy and conflict today.

What you receive

  • Instant style detection with tie-breaker logic.
  • Inbox breakdown with blind spots + strenghts.
  • Population benchmark so you know how common it is.

What are the 4 attachment styles?

Every result includes strengths, blind spots, and a stat so you know how common your pattern is. You’re not broken—you’re patterned.

The Anchor

Secure Attachment Style

Comfortable with both intimacy and independence. Sets the tone for calm repairs and assumes good intent.

Responds to conflict without spiralling.
Doesn’t take a partner’s need for space personally.
Offers support without chasing.

The Pursuer

Anxious Preoccupied Style

Feels emotions intensely and fears abandonment. Protest behavior kicks in when closeness feels uncertain.

Craves reassurance and clarity.
Moves to “fix it now” during disagreements.
Reads too much into delayed replies.

The Lone Wolf

Dismissive Avoidant Style

Equates intimacy with losing independence. Creates distance to stay regulated.

Pulls back or shuts down under stress.
Values self-reliance over co-regulation.
Feels safest once space has been created.

The Paradox

Fearful Avoidant Style

Desperately wants closeness but braces for harm. Nervous system toggles between cling and flight.

High highs + low lows in connection.
Hyper-vigilant for betrayal.
Often rooted in early trauma or chaos.

Quick answers before you start

Short reassurance before you dive in.

Can my attachment style change?

Yes. Attachment style is plastic. With awareness, therapy, or being with a Secure partner, you can move toward earned security.

Is being Avoidant or Anxious “bad”?

No. These are protective strategies you learned early on. Anxious partners anticipate needs, Avoidant partners stay grounded in crises. Awareness lets you manage triggers.

How accurate is this quiz?

It mirrors the Experience in Close Relationships (ECR) inventory. While no 2-minute quiz is clinical, it is a research-backed starting point to understand your blueprint.