Attachment style
Anxious attachment
You feel disconnection quickly, and closeness is how you steady yourself.
A lens, not a score or a diagnosis
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What this result means
An anxious attachment style means the alarm for “are we okay?” is sensitive and fast. When something feels off, you reach — for contact, for reassurance, for a resolution now — because distance feels genuinely unsafe, not because you’re “too much.”
This is a lens, not a diagnosis. It usually comes from learning early that love could be unpredictable, and it softens in relationships where reassurance is given freely and repair is reliable.
What this often means in a relationship
Silence after a fight is harder on you than the fight itself.
You may seek closeness fast, which a distancing partner can misread.
A clear “we’re okay, let’s talk soon” settles you more than you’d expect.
Living with this style together
1 Ask for a specific reassurance rather than a general one — “text me when you land” beats “do you still love me?”
2 A private space to name the fear before you reach can lower the intensity for both of you.
Bring this into a real conversation
Sage can help you talk this through together, calmly and privately.